A blog where I share my stories on the journey towards my happily ever after. *hee-hee*

NOW, you can share your stories with "My Wedding". The proposals, the preps, the good, the bad and everything in between! :D :D :D

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Monday, 22 November 2010

MUM shares... :D

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Assalamualaikum dear,

Akhir nya, with my willingness, I would like to share a family experiences semasa wedding events of mine and my youngest sister. Now, I am a mother of 2 and 1 is coming on the way early next year hehehe... Insya-Allah

Cerita-cerita pasal tukang mekap or mak andam ani... siapa2 yang really2 innocent atu and nada guide from others.. banar tah kalau nama nya nda tau apa2.. banar inda tau apa2... sampai time kan kawin, pun nda tau apa2. I got married semasa sibuk2 Y2K (end of 1999). As my family ni banyak boys (7 boys and 2 girls only) my mum mana jua banyak experiencesnya ah kan buat preparation perkahwinan for the girls in the family. Abang-abang yg sudah kawin apa jua payah nya menguruskan. Jadinya harap2 minta2 pendapat from babu2 kitaorang lah yang bagi2 ideas on siapa mak andam, siapa usai bilik tidor and etc... etc...

Dipendekkan ceritalah ah... ;)... masa my wedding events atu, until the day of my Nikah event... I mean beberapa jam lagi kan nikah, baru tah pernah bersua muka dgn si Mak Andam ani... nama Hjh 'X'. Mum said, she is the best and even my auntie2 ani pun cakap the best coz related to us lah Hjh 'X' ani. As an innocent young girl, so me lapas tangan lah... sal nya frankly speaking, inda ku tau banar-banar pasal mekap ani. Banar tah... mun harapkan bebadak pakai powder pakah atu saja ahh... so Hjh 'X', she cukur2 kening and do lah the basic things Mak Andam should do. Until the tahap she was done with my makeup atu, and mau usai rambut and veil (dulu2 time nikah jarang org pakai tudong, karang ani nikah famous betudong). Tekejut beruk... OR tekejuk gorrila when I saw my face... oooo.... mannnn.... my makeups atu 1980's punya makeups.... time ku nikah my makeups semua warna garang2 babe... alamakkkkk... red lips, blusher pun tarang berabis, very dark eyebrow colour mcm eyebrow indian ladies... if you guys yg baca my story ani ah.. cuba u guys bayangkan or if you guys pernah teclick meliat movie malaysia 1980's... mekapnya tarang and jalak2 berabis... ah catu lah mekap ku time ku kawin.... very frustrated with my makeups, tapi nda berani bunyi2 coz mana jua kan minta tolong time tu... semua innocent2 berabis. So diteruskan tah jua the Nikah ceremony atu... and mengakun ku, gambar Nikah ku nda ku pernah show rah kawan2... betapuk dalam almari baju. Why??? sebab banci ku meliat gambar ku nikah, with the makeups mcm atu. Hjh 'X' still membuat Mak Andam service till now and heheheh she is very style lama. Walau pun family related but nda ku merecommend kedia ni to my friends and colleague di pejabat. Sal outcome memang tak sesuai.

The moral of the story daripada my experiences ani... 8 to 6 months lagi kan nikah/kawin, mencari tah Mak Andam yg bisai2, do lots of research, jgn takut buat makeup trial. Walau pun terpaksa berbelanja duit. I know amount $50 atu banyak. But kalau di compare krg outcome nya kemudian hari semasa wedding events. Insya-Allah berbaloi tu. Karang ani banyak references such ah majalah Pengantin, internet infos, etc. Masa ni I also found out, ada Mak Andam yang canggih2 tu offer makeup classes lagi. Siyuk usulnya, dulu2 time zaman-zaman ku muda2 dulu... mana ada ni. Bride2Be zaman ani very lucky berabis. Which is very good kalau diliat dari segi berbagai sudut ia punya perspektif. Satu, you will paham apa Mak Andam tu kan buat, because you yourself tau. Kedua... jgn tertipu hehehehe... pasal you also know yourself kannnnnn... mentang2 nda tau pasal mekap, kana buat mekap sesuka-suka hati.

The other story yang I want to share is my little sister punya wedding events. Baru setahun jagung berkahwin. Because only kami dua saja the girls in the family. Jadinya me as the one yg sudah ada pengalaman berkahwin, so I guide her a lot. Kami nda mau sejarah lama berulang kembali. Coz it's really hurting my feelings hehehe.... anyhow, we booked this Mak Andam, Hjh 'XYZ'. She is terkenal canggih and lawa mekapkan org kawin. Jadinya of courselah kami dgn sepenuh hati confident dgn kedia ani. Disamping atu, leh kerana si Hjh 'XYZ' ani famous hantap, nda kami belurih membooking kedia for all the four events my sis ani. Jadinya we booked other Mak Andam also Miss 'A' and also Miss 'B'. Jadinya tiga Mak Andam lah for the four events. Miss 'A' ani Mak Andam baru jualah because she admit she baru jua mengandam. Miss 'B' is also famous lah dgn makeup worknya jua kira sudah dikenali ramai. Jadinya of courselah mcm Hjh 'XYZ', kami pun bagi kepercayaan pernuh dgn Miss 'B' ani. We only do one makeup trial dgn Miss 'A' tapi outcome... banar2 kami satisfied berabis.. Alhamdulillah, lawa makeup style nya atu. Jatuh cinta tarus bakal laki sister ku ani. Sal sweets berabis.

Dipendekkan cerita, esuknya my sister ni kan nikah, we keep on contacting Hjh 'XYZ' ani, di msg2 nada jua respond nya. Salnya kami sudah beuri, esuk the nikah event, kan mau bagi alamat. Last2 ditunggu2 nada respond, kami telipun, payah2 kan ditelipun banar inda bejawab. By late afternoon, baru tah dapat kami called... sungguh menghampakan jawapan nya... guess what... ia cakap ia inda dapat mekapkan for the nikah event coz ia sibuk and kana double booked... boleh kah catuuu?????? A famous mak andam, but acting unprofessionally, walau pun kan cari duit eh.. nda kan last2 minute esuk org kan kawin baru tah dibagi tau inda dapat mekapkan. Kan hampir pengsan usulnya my sister. Mana kan cari Mak Andam yg steady2 time last-last minute ani, nikah event not event 24 hrs to go... tekakai-kakai kami menelefon kawan2... minta tolong carikan other Mak Andam. Dalam tangisan sedih kana buat catu tepaksa kami kuatkan semangat. Mom and Dad inda tau.. kalau durang tau lagi tia hot jadinya... malas kan membaratkan hati durang, org tua-tua. so kami2 saja menguruskan perkara ani. Oleh kerana nada harapan, Mak Andam Miss 'A' and 'B' pun nda jua belaku sal durang pun sudah kana booked for that day. We cuba contact this Mak Andam Miss 'C'. Luckily ia free inda kana booked. She is kinda of famous also, org cakap mekapnya lawa. So tawakkal we booked her tarus coz we got no other choice.

On the Nikah event, Mak Andam Miss 'C'.... do her makeup work. Unfortunately indah khabar dari rupa. Sama cerita mcm my nikah experience also. My sister punya muka, dari sweet girl looked berubah berabis. Heavy face structures. Cana kan tuuuu... mekap style apa kan tuuu... liat dari dakat atas hidung jalak2 garis badak nya, too many blink2, etc.... Rasa jua kan mancung kan hidung pengantin nda kan catu mekapnya, walau pun hidung nda steady mancung nya. Miss 'C' cakap Indon style makeup... yatah karang... Sadang2 deh... bagi ku beauty ani di enhance bah bukan di ubah jadi lain. All her nikah pic... turned out disaster, photographer pun complained they have to do banyak editing, which is true sebab when we saw the softcopy pics, semua bida mekapnya. Even this photographer cakap rah kami, that Mak Andam Miss 'C' don't do good makeups.

Anyhow, Alhamdulillah, through out all the other events time mlm berbedak, bersanding and also mlm berambil-ambilan... we got no problem. Semua bejalan lancar, Mak Andam 'A' and 'B' have done their job excellently. Salute to them... ;)

Moral of the story... selidik2 dulu Mak Andam yang bakal kamu booking. Walau tia famous ahhh... kadang2 indah khabar dari rupa. Tapi walau pun mcm atu, I do envy and salute Mak Andam yang banar2 bisai membuat mekap org kawin, ikhlas membuatkan org lawa dan berseri2 di hari perkahwinan. Mak Andam Hjh 'XYZ' nada ku recommend eh, berjanji inda belurus. Mak Andam 'C' kalau boleh tah, perbaiki lagi makeup skills ah. Bukan kan offending but kenyataan.

Atulah saja experiences yg I wanted to share. Mudahan dapat dijadikan sebagai pengajaran to all. Walau pun mcm atu, not all Mak Andam is BAD and not all Mak Andam is SUPER GOOD but of course the GOOD ones atu they do exist. Do investigate and research before banar2 kan booking mak andam. Buat plan B by listing nama2 Mak Andam and HP numbersnya sekiranya ada kecemasan. All the best to all future Bride2Be...

Wassalam.

Hugs & Kisses
MUM

Monday, 25 October 2010

...don't know what to put

Assalamualaikum ladiesss~~~

How is everyone?? I hope everything goes well... Like I said, October's a busy month for me hence the slowness with my updates. My internet's a no-no at my place so basically, I can only go online at the in-laws. Two weeks ago, I was away for a short working trip. It was exhausting but nonetheless, 'memorable' in a way~ *lol* Only my friend J knows the story...

But before I flew off, I did go to the Wedding Exhibition (think it was on Friday) and guess what? I was surprised that not many B2Bs were there. In fact, both me and Mr. A plang kna pikir kan kahwin~ And not to disappoint them, we went on and played the act! Hehehehe! Sometimes it does surprise me when strangers thought that we (me and the mister) aren't married yet. Kadang-kadang, ada jua the elders giving us the 'kanak-kanak masani ani nda tau malu' look... ah well, take it as a compliment!

the quietness of the expo last time, even RBA booths were kosong and believe you me, the tickets were at an unexpected price...

In case everyone's still wondering, yeap... I'm still the same 'ol, same 'ol~ Missing all the ladies with all their updates and random chats at chatango above... mana kamuuuuu????!~~ :(

Miss83 : mana uuuuuu??? have you tried it?? I've been neglecting my supplements..mesti kna acut ne!

YE20 : hw are things?? cuba sudah??

Dk25 : it has been awhile lah~

Na21 : semua tah tni ni jdi 'Desperate Wives'... a friend suggested that we all read this book 'Jangan Bersedih' I will start reading today..

SiNana and G228 : *HUGS* and congrats to you both~ I wish the both of you and little ones the very best and take good care of your babies yeah! Do update us all with the experiences yeah... :D

Anyways, while I was abroad, I did some surfing and found these beautiful pelamins from the wedding of none other, Jimmy Shanley and his bride, Suhaila...

this was the pelamin during their engagement
nikah pelamin
sanding pelamin
(All the pics are taken from beautifulnara.com)

and below are the pictures of the pelamin from the last fairytale wedding video I uploaded,

lovely ain't it? all taken from jumiejumie.blogspot.com

The evolution of pelamin nowadays~ simple but elegant...! Ideas for thought to our dear boutiques! ;)

Until then, cheerios!

Thursday, 7 October 2010

It's here! It's here!!

Salam...

It's finally here... better check it out cos you all don't want to miss it~~



I will be off for a short trip this weekend so we'll see if I could actually squeeze a little bit of my time to visit the expo.. hehehe :D Will definitely post a new entry after a week ;)

Until next time,
Mrs. A

Monday, 27 September 2010

GREY

Salam everyone,

I'm not so sure as to when to continue my wedding posts. I have tons of articles and tips to share with all!! (aside from my random updates about my current well-being that is~) I was thinking of posting this on the 2nd week of Syawal.. but then again, it's been bz here and there.. everyone gets the drill I bet? :D

Thought I'll start my weddings entries with "Theme". Something for 2011 couples I guess, cos if kan buat for this year would be too rushing kan? Hehehe~

So here's a sample of invitation card specially designed in gray with white inserts and black writings. Some people love to have their invites tied with ribbons, so why not make something different like this one?

a sample of grey hantaran

I am soo sooo soooooo in love with this dress. It's simple but will definitely be an eye catcher. I love a simple monotone beading works, hence my wedding dress last time. But this one is definitely.... *wow*


a little bit simpler but indefinitely elegant! this is where your tudongs, tiaras and/or even bouquet can actually standout!

a little closer to the typical ones we see here in Brunei...




a grey-silver heels that is to die for! (simple, elegant and hawt!)


door gifts packs, can simmpan sweets / mints in them~

the nyummyness of a monotone cake... nyum2~
grey - purple pelamin.. ethnic touch and plays more on the lighting concept. I *heart* the stand lamps hehehe

the lovely grey bedroom.. and who dare says grey paint for a room is dull?
This will be my NEXT project on someone's room~ *nyeh2*
a little more subtle but still is comfy!

I find it hard to wrap up this entry... took me 1 breakfast meal and a chitchat session with the in-laws to actually have a simple idea on how to do this. Hahahaha well, at least I'm saying something?? Nda jua gantung2 right??? Hehehe to the future bride&groom~~ Remember, the less you spend the better. :D Until the next time.. insya-Allah~

Friday, 24 September 2010

fairy tale indeed!!

Salam all...

Found this video on YouTube. A very, very, very expensive wedding but nonetheless, a memorable one. But seriously speaking, I like how the video is recorded. I'm sure this took at least 5 cameramen?? At LEAST tu ah~ Me and Mr.A thought this was Taylor Swift's videoclip of "Today Was A Fairy Tale" !! Fairy tale wedding indeed...

The way the whole wedding settings were made, the decorations, the... haih, macam2 lagi lah. I fell in love with the dais (pelamin) too... could there be a possibility of those kinds coming to Brunei?? Prolly in the next 2-3 years time, i.e when I actually have my own wedding business *Amin* and by that time, will bring in more and more designs! Insya-Allah~

Enjoy the video and tell me what you think? :D :D

A production of Manggis.TV,
The wedding of a daughter to the coordinator of NAZA Group of Companies

A brief details on their business scope :

Naza Group of Companies, Malaysia’s largest and prestigious importer of luxury automobiles was originally founded in 1975. As the main importer and distributor of automotive brands such as Ferrari, Peugeot and Brabus but to name a few, Naza has all but grown into one of today’s leading conglomerates in Malaysia. Latching on the success of its automobile business, it has since diversified into a variety of prominent industries which includes property development, motorbikes, hospitality, food & beverages, finance & insurance, manufacturing, research & creative solutions, transportation & logistics and agriculture.
For more info, www.naza.com.my

Until the next entry~ xoxo

Tuesday, 21 September 2010

update~

Salam all...

Welcome to the 'new' layout. I thought of having a wedding entry but then again, we're just in the 2 weeks of Syawal and I haven't been talking much about myself for awhile! I was doing some research for a design work which me and my colleague had to do... sekali I ended up changing my blog background instead! *lol*

This background is supposed to be put on in October. With the blog coming to its 2nd year anniversary :D but looking at my schedule.. October's gonna be pretty hectic. So I decided to put it on sooner. :)

To answer wedding talks:

dais : tudong putih *yg automatic slip in with all crystals atu can be found anywhere @ boutiques or even, small2 booths yang di Mall / Hua Ho / Q-Lap... Plaza Athirah :D Best of luck!

Reena : Most of my friends I know ordered them straight from the products site. :D Kira bought originally from the company lah. A long process but satisfaction guaranteed!

guest : what I did was ikut exactly the no. of invitations sent + 150 for family (600 sanding = 750 guests, 300 berbedak = 450 guests, 150 nikah = 300 guests + 50 rombongan lelaki) . Some kira 3/4 of their invitation saja attend with spouses.

^_^ : You go for Syazlie, Naaqiyah, Suzy Niekman and Flawless&Shimmer (all in my list :D) oh yes, and K Pang.

Hehehehhe right, back to my update sikit..

My Eid celebration has been very slow aside from attending a few houses. Apologies to some of my friends, whose openhouses I did not attend. Most of them are on weekdays and I'm working soooo... jangan jara ah~ (those yang tau where I work will understand why I'm unable to attend) Had a family gathering over at my sis' last weekend and we all had fun. With new borns (my cousins') around, meriah suasana hehehehe and I just loooooveee cuddling them! Sampai ada my aunt thought yang the little one I was holding atu, mine... *lol* Ada usul sudah jadi Mummy kh Bu? We're still praying for that time to come... Insya-Allah~ Makes me sad jua sikit cause exactly the date last year... was the incident. Had it not happened, we'll be bringing a 4 months old child around Raya-ing here and there.. :D :D *sigh* Insya-Allah.. one day we will. Prayers be with all *Amin*

Anyhoots, I'll be putting on wedding themes on the next entry. So much infos gathered yet I have not managed to put them all together. How did I do this last time??? Hehehe timme to get back to business!!!

Until then... xoxo~

Friday, 10 September 2010

Aidilfitri 2010


Assalamualaikum Warrahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,


To all my valued readers, we would like to take this ooportunity to say
SELAMAT HARI RAYA AIDILFITRI
Forgive us if this blog may have confused some people, better yet.. forgive ME if I have said anything that may have bad mouthed some people involved. Nevertheless, secrecy and confidentiality towards the stories shared with all still remains.

To my gals of bride2be chat :

Dk25 - babe, mana lama menghilang ni?? busy countdown kah tu... hope to hear from you
YE20 - have you started??
Miss83 - ada kuih nyummy2 kh? hehehehe
MummyG228 - you'll be the first amongst us to be a mother. I congratulate you in advance and hopefully nanti as we all say, 'murah beranak' *Amin*
Na21 - where have you been?? and how are things??
Dinda - I know you jrg chat but you have been an active person to response to others @ Wedding Talks.. with that, I thank you :D :D Best of luck with your upcoming wedding!!

And to all,
Enjoy your Raya celebration but don't forget to stay healthy and be safe.

Until the next entry *insya-Allah*
Minal Aidil Walfaidzin...

Bride~

Sunday, 22 August 2010

Keeping wedding costs down takes commitment

Salam semua...

A littlle something I should've posted when it was first issued last May in The Brunei Times. An article to open one's mind towards planning his / her wedding..
Ying Chia
BANDAR SERI BEGAWAN

Saturday, May 29, 2010

PLANNING for big occasions, such as weddings, is not always easy especially when more often than not, budget is limited.

Whether you are looking to create a lavish event or something more simple, good planning and flexibility can go a long way in helping to cut costs.

IT'S THE LITTLE THINGS THAT COUNT

Whether planning for a wedding or a birthday, the little details will usually be the ones that cost the most and catch you off guard, so having a clear idea of exactly what the event will be like can help keep costs down during the planning stage.

Anishaa Norali and her fiancé, Muhaiman Awang , are planning to get married in July and both say that they were unprepared on how much the wedding would cost.

"I'm actually paying for everything. Usually the mother or father will pay for the wedding expenses, but I'm paying for the majority of the expenses like the the dress, the hantaran (gifts), catering and miscellaneous expenses like tents for the reception, make-up and hair, and gifts for guests. "There are a lot of little expenses that I didn't take into consideration," Anishaa said.

She said that the most unnecessary expenses that she was spending the most money on, were make-up and hair, because she wanted to opt for convenience. "I don't want to be rushing around or making a mistake with my make-up."

Anishaa said those services could cost up to $180 to $220, noting that because clients are part of a wedding party, businesses tended to charge higher, taking into account they provide home service which is more convenient for clients.

It's really up to an individual, to decide what kind of things they were willing to spend money on and what their needs were, she added.

Her fiancé, Muhaiman, said that he actually hadn't been keeping an eye on where the money for the wedding was going to. "Looking back, I think I would actually keep track of where all the money is going," he said.

Muhaiman added that when he started out planning for the wedding, he originally thought that from the savings that he had made that it would be sufficient to cover everything.

"It's been more than I expected, about fifty per cent more, so I guess I didn't really know what went into a wedding."

KEEPING IT SIMPLE

Although organising an extravagant wedding can be more fun, a little bit of creativity and flexibility can help to ensure that it is still tasteful, and most importantly, meaningful. Shelly, an event planner, said that although a lot of people tended to approach her with very extravagant ideas, she often advised clients on ways to achieve the desired effect without actually paying the price. "For example, for weddings, sometimes you get a 'bridezilla' effect where the client is not willing to be flexible. But being open to different options can be beneficial to your budget because it means you can explore different elements such as different and cheaper flower arrangements that are just as nice as the expensive ones, or even get a friend or family member with a catering business to help out and cut costs."

Muhaiman agreed saying that for the hantaran ceremony, a lot of people would buy the kain or cloth, for their hantaran entourage to be uniform. "As long as I stipulate the colour, it doesn't really matter whether it's the same exact tone (so they can wear their own clothes), and if someone doesn't have a baju melayu then I'll buy it for them.

"It really depends on your standards and what you place value on," he added, saying that most people would go to a wedding planning to design each hantaran tray. "But I've got my sisters to do that, and it's more meaningful that way."

Anishaa said that on her side, she cut back on costs for the invitations. "I could have gone overboard and printed out very nice, fancy invites, but I decided to cut down on that and give out mini-cards so that I'm not spending on cutting down trees for my wedding."

She added that a lot of the decoration that goes into the hantaran were made up of plastic and wrapping.

"So I'm trying to go for more natural, organic things to decorate my hantaran like leaves and flowers from my garden, and also using wooden baskets instead of plastic ones, so they don't take 1,000 years to degrade and you can always reuse them after wards instead of throwing them away like many people do," she said.

The Brunei Times
Taking environmental sustainability into action... Salute to this lady!

Tuesday, 17 August 2010

Ramadhan


Assalamualaikum...

Almost a week dah bulan Ramadhan and now, I finally got the chance to greet my fellow readers "Selamat Berpuasa" :D The internet at my place is not working AGAIN!! I'm guessing pasal terkana tamparik the other day~ Oh well!~ And GO! Broadband network isn't available in my area... so yeah, I can only access the Net when I'm at the In-Laws *heehee*

I've no plans to go to any Gerai(s) just yet because to date I have not started my fasting and also, before Ramadhan pun macam2 dah menu I tried for my iftar. Something to look forward to would be the end of this month. The siblings and I are planning for a family 'Sungkai Out'.. sis has scout a place and I do hoped that she booked us a table or two. I am also thinking of holding an iftar gathering with my bffs.. It has been awhile since we last hung out.

Will try to actually update this blog. After all, this is just a random entry.. away from wedding articles and such *hee*hee*

I pray and hope that all of us can get Allah's blessing in this holy month of Ramadhan. *Amiiiinnn*

Thursday, 5 August 2010

Dania shares... ;)

Assalamualaikum to all,

Another story to share with all, I believe this has always been the anticipated one since it's first been introduced *lol* So to EVERYONE out there.. do keep it coming! Previous stories were mostly pasal photogs... here's a different twist with a good lesson too~
Salam..

It's Dania here.. Alhamdulillah Majlis dh selesai 4 mths ago but tanggungjawab dunia/akhirat sentiasa berterusan. Thanks to dear Bride , cos wif her blog byk reference dpt dibuat. Terutama part2 saving. Alhamdulillah. pjg dh jasa c Bride ani. hee. my fave part ofcos pasal penggunaan lining for this n that..heee.

Anyhoo, we were engaged last October & had 4 mths of preparation - wedding by March. I set my mind..by February mesti smua settle. March goyang kaki saja. hihi.

What I wanted to share is about my Jongsarat. Once tau sudah tarikh, we instantly menempah tenunan baru dari someone in Lambak. My sibs, contacts, cuzins ramai yg ambil tempahan dari ia. Direct frm rumah la ia menenun. So, went there bulan December to confirm the colour & bunga tenunan. We asked her utk siapkan by January..lagi awal kan lagi baik.

January menjelma..hihi, so we made a call asking siap dh kah balum. She said, hujung bulan Januari siap. Relax la masih i. Then, end of January i called lagi, she told me urg yg menenun nya alum sampai lagi, dun wori- 2 minggu boleh siap tu, katanya. i was so disappointed sudah wif dis lady. Bt i put trust skali lg arahnya. She said, bulan Februari siap.

Mid February, i called again. One month before my wedding ni. Amazingly *lol*, she asked 'bilakan kawinmu ani banarnya?'. Berderau rasa my blood bila ia bgtau ia alum buat. Hahaha. (tawa sarcastic). bakal saja she's an old lady. so respek sikit. Sabar. Dugaan perkahwinan. So, i gave her chance. Bt i prepare Plan B.

I survey ready made jongsarat. wif the exact color dat i want. Alhamdulillah, found it and in case nda siap jua yg arah BuAjah atu, yg ani ada dh dalam tgn.

n tadaa...masuk bulan 3, my jongsarat alum jua siap. ia baru kan buatnya. ish ish ish. kesal sangat la dgn ketidak profesionalisma nya. luckily i bought jongsarat yg ready made atu. Alhamdulillah. and dat Bu Ajah? i told her 'cancel tia..'. n she repeatedly txted me f im jadikah nda mengambil arahnya. sudah atu ah.. ish ish... awal2 atu f dtext, mmbalas pun nda.

moral of the story, back up plan! i didnt expect benda ani bleh jadi. reputasi sudah ada bt yalah, sapa sangka jua. unfortunately jua, i believe she has full control on what she's doing bt she didnt run it quite well. baik jua tkananya i found jongsarat yg ngam, f nda??! hehehe...

k, atu saja..harap-harap semua dpt jdkan ani sebagai satu err pengajarankah tu? N ohh..my advice to any bride to be- fI dpt, elakkan tah suruh urg beramai-ramai dlm bilik...lagi byk baiknya dri buruknya. Hehe...

Semoga rahmat Allah mengiringi kitani dalam membina masjid dunia/akhirat ani..Amin...

Love,
Dania
*Amin* Well, I am still curious with the thing about 'elakkan orang beramai2 dalam bilik' ? Would love dear Dania to explain why.. :) Pretty please~~~ As for the kind words, I'm glad that I could help everyone (although indirectly) whenever I can .. :) Last but not the least, to my gal, MissG2, and those yang bakal melansungkan hari Pernikahan tomorrow, best of luck yeah! Didoakan semoga semuanya berjalan dengan lancar... *AMIN*

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Rasulullah SAW dalam hadisnya bermaksud, "Bila isteri itu mengerjakan sembahyang lima waktu, berpuasa bulan Ramadan, memelihara kemaluannya dan mematuhi suruhan dan larangan suaminya, maka akan dimasukkan dia ke dalam syurga." (riwayat Abu Hurairah)

Monday, 2 August 2010

1st Yr



~ HAPPY ANNIVERSARY ~

This date last year was a memorable one. No words can describe how much I feel about this life we share together except to thank His Almighty for His blessings, guidance and revelations. Insya-Allah berkekalan ke akhir hayat....

*Amin*

Love you always my cinta,
Mrs. A




Saturday, 17 July 2010

Mr. A's

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY CINTA



Yeap, exactly 2 days after HM's birthday is Mr.A's first birthday as a 'HUSBAND' hehehe... Thanks for the treat sayang~ ;)Mrs. A will always be there with you no matter what!! Mudah-mudahan kitani memperolehi rezeki yang melimpah-ruah *insya-Allah* Didoakan semoga sihat wal'afiat dan sentiasa dilindungiNya *Amin*

Love always,
Mrs. A a.k.a Bride

Thursday, 15 July 2010

Hari Keputeraan

DAULAT KEBAWAH DULI TUAN PATIK


Dipanjatkan doa agar Negara Brunei Darussalam sentiasa aman dan sejahtera dibawah naungan Kebawah Duli Tuan Patik *Amin Ya Rabbal 'Alamin*

SELAMAT MENYAMBUT PUJA USIA KE 64 TAHUN.

Saturday, 3 July 2010

another theme... P _ _ _ H



Salam everyone....

First thing first, would love to congratulate my former housemate, Mr. E for finally becoming a husband to his beloved wife, Mrs. E yesterday. I'm sorry for not being able to attend your Nikah and Sanding this week. Won't be in the country this weekend and yesterday, ada urusan penting with the hubby at the bank. Seriously, all banks are busier than ever this week! It has been a while since I last went to any banks on payday week~ *lol* Somehow today reminded me my reasons for not doing so..~

Other than that, this week is the 'Eclipse' fever~ Me and hubby watched them last Thursday and I am somehow impressed with Taylor's acting this time around. *double thumbs up * I can't wait for the 4th and last movie~ It's gonna be exciting!

Hehehehe ok, nuff abt the movie let's get back with the main topic here.... I'm doing theme in this entry, and from the teaser.. I hope many of you got it right. Yes, it's P.E.A.C.H. The colour hubby specifically chose for our Raya theme this year... *smiles*

You may opt for a simple design for your invitation card, believe me..nowadays, the simpler it looks, the better!

or still something simple and not neglecting the Malays in us,
peach songket like invitation card

I like this room because it shows simplicity and the effects are mainly focused on the lighting. Macam, siang the room will look different and at night it'll look like this~ The room was originally painted cocoa brown with peach lighting effect..

Light peach pelamin


striking peach pelamin by Maszalina Boutique.. loving this!


peach and gold hantaran... from http://rose-nani.blogspot.com


oh my peachy Louboutin!!! simple but hey, it's Louboutin~


I took this pic somewhere, loving the attire for both but disliking the make-up *no offence to the ppl involved* The dastar, like I said, would look much much much better the way they do with His Majesty's. (hopefully he'll wear the traditional gear this 15th July, 2010)



loving the design for this dress and yes, the make up is more subtle. Eventhough the dress is not peach, but I think this will look glamourous with that colour! Indeed!

and last not the least, the peach bouquet... lawa-ness!
My apologies to all if sekiranya terlambat with updating my entries. It has been a hectic half year and hoing for things to slow down abit coming Ramadhan next month. Wishing everyone, the very best of luck with their preps and Insya-Allah will try and update as frequent as I can. Until next time...

Bride
xoxo

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Para isteri menjadi pakaian bagi suami dan suami menjadi pakaian bagi isteri
~ al- Baqarah 187 ~

Thursday, 24 June 2010

coming up next

TEASER??



NEW entry coming up... :D

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Love is not about finding the right person, but creating the right relationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end...
- Lovingyou.com

Sunday, 13 June 2010

something, something


Salam all...

Things just got busier than ever but Alhamdulillah, today I managed to post up an entry. Attended a wedding of my Uni friends last Sunday and when meeting up with some of our friends ofcourse the typical question asked to the singles popped up "Bah, ko bila lagi?" Some gave surprise answers, some asked for an apology for not telling that they've gotten themselves engaged. Macam.. aiiiii~

The script either went like "Insya-Allah, tunggu saja kad jemputannya nanti..soon" (means it's sometime this year) or "Next year lah belum tau date..." or "Ujung tahun tapi balum tau tahunnya lagi ..." *lol* or my cousins' famous quote back during my single years when asked by the elders "kita do'akan ku bejumpa jodoh yang baik2"

So weddings, weddings, weddings soon~ Can't wait! This year has been very slow when it comes to weddings from my closest and dearest. But proposals and little juniors are popping up like mushrooms.. some you don't expect, some well.. IT's about TIME!!!!! My relatives have been asking me "Mengapa tia belum lagi ada penggantinya ani? Have you not tried??? " If anyone read one of my previous stories.. you'll know~ I just simply answered, 'We can only try and plan but Allah knows best, Insya-Allah.. ada tu nanti, pray for the best~' In the mean time, I'm happy that my cousins and sisters are all baking the bun in their ovens.. hehehehe more stories on that in the next entry.

Alright then, as requested hantaran! It's not a must, and guess what, I've seen yg bagi 5 dulang saja. Sikit but worth it! My list can be checked in my entry HERE but here's how I come up with my list, think of ....
  1. something your other half don't have in his possession
  2. something he/she will be able to use frequently
  3. something that you and your other half would like to have in pairs / common with
  4. something you've been longing to give to your hubby-to-be
  5. something he loves
  6. something sweet
That's what my dearest aunty told me, so yeah.. we wrote everything down and I mean, everything!!! For Him and For Her (well this one based on what my cousin gave to his wife lah last time) to give some of you a little idea~

FOR HIM
  • Al-Quran, sejadah, tasbih & topi
  • Wedding Ring
  • Wallet & Belt set
  • Watch
  • Kasut
  • Perfumes
  • Hygiene & Facial Set
  • Work Shirts
  • Casual Shirts
  • Baju Melayus + Songkok
  • Sports (inclusive of jerseys and football boots)
  • electronic gadgets (which i cancelled out cos I decided to give this one for his birthday hehe)
  • towel set
  • working and formal shoes
  • something cooked by myself (especially hubby fav)
  • cake
  • cupcakes
  • homemade wajid / kelupis
  • cookies
  • other delicacies
FOR HER
  • Telekong, Al-Quran, Sejadah
  • Watch and Ring
  • Kains (tailor made or jst kain)
  • Tudongs
  • Handbags
  • Sandals and Shoes
  • Perfume sets and toiletries
  • towels
  • sports gear
  • electronics
  • flower bouquet
  • jewellery set
  • facial and makeup sets
  • baking/cooking utensils
  • sewing kit
... and lots more possible things anyone can think of but instead, I just narrowed it down to our essentials. In fact, we pretty much satisfied with what we give to each other~ leaving all the other things to be bought in other appropriate occasions... :) Like I said before in one of my previous post, me and hubby love to celebrate our important days. :)

Right about now, dearest hubby is overseas attending his 3 weeks course ( 2 more weeks till he's back here..) *sigh* Can't say much... but we'll be having our 3rd holiday escapade sometime soon.. *iskiness* Something to look forward to...

Until my next entry peeps~
Enjoy your weekend!!

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Rasulullah SAW dalam hadisnya bermaksud, "Wanita yang paling banyak mendapat kurnia ialah wanita yang murah mas kahwinnya, yang senang nikahnya dan baik budi pekertinya. Dan wanita yang jahat ialah wanita yang mahal mas kahwinnya, payah nikahnya dan yang buruk budi pekertinya..

Thursday, 13 May 2010

NB shares...

Salam...

I'm pretty much demotivated the whole because I don't know why. I guess, it's one of those days where i just feel like I want to stay at home and just do nothing. Basically, I'm suppose to apply for my annual leave ni this month but due to some reasons. Inda jadi... So, I'm still contemplating on my schedules. :D Alhamdulillah for giving me all this strength, ya Allah..

This week has been all sooo stressful for me, I tend to have tears every now and then..but allah knows best and I thank Him for making me who I am today~ :) Alright then, on to the next person who willingly shares her stories / experience with us all...

Hey everyone!

Lets just call me the nervous bride (NB). First of all i would like to thank "Sweetie" for sharing your story. Your story inspired me to share my experience with a photog too. (a bad experience at that!)

Anyways.. I know this photog, through his blog. Mcm famous lah ah orang ani. So, without waiting any further, i emailed him and tell him that i wanted to book him and i even asked if he was available on those dates. He said yes, and then he gave me his personal number. So i contacted him again.. texted him.. but he did not reply. It was only after couple of days that he gave me a reply. So i told him that i wanted to meet him and discuss further. Again, no reply.

I didn't give up, because from his blog, it was obvious he WAS that good and quite popular. I thought to myself, YES! HE IS THE ONE. He should be the one who will take my wedding pictures nanti.

So anyways.. i texted him again, telling him i wanted to meet him, and then he said "ok meet u tomorrow at X time d restaurant Y".

So the next day, i was running a bit late (5 mins only!) so i texted him i was already there, and i was finding a parking spot. So he texted me he said "ITS OK, TAKE YOUR TIME". So, me and my fiance rushed to the restaurant. At a glimpse of him, i knew it was him, he was with his gadgets lah, laptop and all those things spread out on a table. He was talking to a man when we walked in, he acknowledged us, by a simple nod.

So we waited at the next corner of the room, waited.. and waited.. while he was still busy talking to that man. We even had the time to order drinks and drank them. SO yea.. just imagine how long we waited. So after a while, he called us to his table. Before we even sat down, he said " You know that man i was talking too? yea, he already booked your dates."

We looked at him, i was expecting him to 'joke' - but he still looked mcm biasa saja! HE DIDNT EVEN SAY SORRY! mcm what?? at that point, i was just speechless. Dont tell me i just sat there, for almost half an hour fr nothing! RUPANYA he double booked me! We sat down, Tuhan ganya tau prasan kami masa tu. Mcm kana main main kn bah. TAPI yang bari sakit hati, after all that, masih ia show off his pictures, n cakap "I'm a photo journalist, so i take pictures cara bercereta lah" so he showed us and pointed at every pic "ani.. pengantin lelaki be usai diri.. at the same time, pengantin bini kana make up kan...selepas atu, durang ready, sekali ke hall sama sama..something along that line! Mcm apakan? pandai jua kmi meliat gmbar. SO whats the point of u show off? inda jua kami dpt book ia!

SO i said lah.. mcm kenapa ya inda bagitau ada org kn book ia on those dates jua? marah kli ah. He said, ia andang style nya macam atu, sapa dulu bayar ia tah tu. WELLL EXCUSE ME, how am i suppose to know ada org kn book kami punya dates? and how r we supose to know ia kn deposit? how dare he double book me? that is just so selfish of him. He said we can take other new photogs under him (yg balum cukup experience pulang) tapinya, harganya! subahanallah. MAHAL! Inda jua jauh daripada how much he charges. Why should we pay that amount for org yg hardly ada any experience?

We left.. feeling hurt and feeling extremely pissed. Inda pedah kami bejumpa ia. ATLEAST lah ah, have the courtesy to inform us awal. F he told us awal ada org booking, and sapa laju ia dpt, then fine! we will deposit. BUT dont treat us this way.

I have a photog friend. He then told me about c lelaki ani. rupanya he is famous for being like that. KNown to be pemalas, tau shoot saja. Klu ada shooting with other photogs, yg lain usai the light, and pose kn models.. ia tau duduk arah corner, udah photogs lain siap mengusai setting apa, baruth ia bediri and shoot! And yg bari sakit hati, laju laju ia upload those pics arah his blog, kirakan ia punya idea lah.

Also, i met with an old friend of mine, who happened to be his client. I asked how the pictures turn out, and she was sooooo mad! she said, apatu! brapa lama sudah ku kawin, balum siap! and when i texted him up, betelipon apa he said he will only siapkn klu bayar full sudah. bt the thing is she paid more than half! sekiranya harganya 4k, she paid about 3600 sudah! apa jua ganya few hundred dollars?! she wanted to pay him after siap. BUT walaupun ia discuss bisai bisai, kana teriaki pulang oleh c lelaki ani.

Anyways.. just look out lah ah for this photog. and if u read Sweetie's cereta, i cant help but feel we r talking about the same person. That goes to show you how valid our stories are. Bukannya kn downgrade him, watsoever. but just looking out for those brides to be out there. Careful! Just because he is famous, or internationlly known, pernah gmbar artis kah apakah, dont be fooled. We r customers, and we should get the treatment we deserve.

From Nervous Bride aka "NB"

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Diriwayatkan oleh Muslim, Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Seburuk-buruk manusia disisi Allah pada hari Kiamat adalah seorang lelaki yang menceritakan hubungan dengan isterinya dan isteri yang berhubungan dengan suaminya lalu menyebarluaskan rahsia mereka."

Sunday, 9 May 2010

Mother's Day and more... :D


Salam all...

First and foremost,

WISHING ALL MOTHER'S OUT THERE and MOTHER-TO-BEs a HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY.
Dearest MUM and MUM-IN-LAW (hehe first time ni~), I love you both no matter what! Both are special in their own ways and it feels good to be loved by you both. Insya-Allah, I will try to become a better daughter (everyone's not perfect) and will always pray for your good health and blessing from Allah S.W.T *Amin*

Secondly,

SELAMAT PENGANTIN BARU to all the couples who officially tied the knot last Friday and is having their Sanding today. But ofcourse, there will be cases where the Nikah is on Sunday as well (like ours hehehehe) Wishing everyone a happy blissful wedded life now and Hereafter. Insya-Allah.

Since everyone in the chatbox are hot up with the discussion of planning your wedding events, I just can't help but putting up the next article (though it was meant to be post up next week..) I'm like, nevermind, there's always something new everyday right?

PENGERTIAN WALIMATUL ‘ARUS

· Walimatul ‘arus ialah kenduri bagi meraikan atau merayakan pengantin baru.

· Walimah ialah jamuan agama (bukan jamuan adat kebiasaan) yang dibuat kerana Allah, bukan jamuan kebanggaan dan bukan sumber untuk mendapat keuntungan duniawi.

PENSYARI‘ATAN WALIMATUL ‘URUS

· Mengadakan majlis walimah adalah sangat digalakkan dalam Islam.

· Sabda Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam:

Maksudnya:
“’Abdul Rahman bin ‘Awf melakukan perkahwinan, maka Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam bersabda kepadanya: Hendaklah anda mengadakan walimah walaupun dengan seekor kambing.”
(Al-Hadith)

TUJUAN WALIMATUL ‘URUS

· Tujuan mengadakan walimah adalah untuk mengumumkan pernikahan di samping menggembirakan pengantin yang baru menjejaki jinjang pelamin dan ia juga sebagai tanda kegembiraan orang tua kerana mendapat menantu baru. Pengumuman yang sebaik-baiknya ialah majlis perkahwinan yang diadakan di masjid dan dipukul gendang dan rebana.

· Sabda Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam:

Maksudnya:
“Umumkanlah perkahwinan dan selenggarakanlah di masjid dan pukullah gendang dan rebana pada hari perkahwinan itu.” -(Riwayat Ahmad dan Tirmizi)

· Oleh yang demikian, dalam meraikan kegembiraan tersebut adalah penting bagi kita untuk membezakan antara adat dengan ibadat yang perlu dipatuhi. Tidak menjadi kesalahan kepada kita untuk mengikut adat resam sesebuah kaum asalkan adat itu tidak bertentangan dengan syara‘.

· Islam menggalakkan hiburan yang sederhana dan sopan dengan menggariskan beberapa syarat seperti berikut:

1. Tiada pergaulan bebas antara lelaki dengan wanita yang bukan mahram.

2. Nyanyian dan muzik yang tidak menimbulkan nafsu.

3. Tidak melalaikan ingatan dan kewajipan terhadap Allah subhanahu wata‘ala.

4. Senikata nyanyian tidak mengandungi perkataan-perkataan yang cabul atau tidak sopan.

HUKUM MENGADAKANNYA

Hukum mengadakan kenduri kahwin ini adalah sunat muakkad (sangat dituntut) sebagaimana sabda Rasulullah s.a.w yang bermaksud:

"Kata Nabi s.a.w. kepada Abdul Rahman bin Auf sewaktu beliau berkahwin, hendaklah kamu mengadakan kenduri kahwin sekalipun hanya menyembelih seekor kambing".

HUKUM MENGHADIRINYA

Menerima jemputan ke majlis perkahwinan adalah wajib terhadap setiap orang yang dijemput kecuali ada sesuatu keuzuran. Tidak dapat menghadirinya disebabkan sakit atau sebagainya, sebagaimana sabda Rasulullah s.a.w. yang bermaksud:

"Apabila kamu dijemput untuk menghadiri majlis kenduri kahwin, hendaklah kamu menghadirinya". (Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim)

SYARAT WAJIB KE MAJLIS KENDURI KAHWIN APABILA DI UNDANG

i) Yang dijemput itu bukan khusus kepada orang yang kaya sahaja.

ii) Didalam majlis tersebut, tidak ada seorang pun terdiri dari musuhnya.

iii) Didalam majlis itu, tidak ada perkara yang mungkar dan maksiat seperti arak, judi dan joget.

iv) Tiada bercampur gaul didalam majlis itu dengan perempuan-perempuan yang bukan mahramnya.

v) Tiada bersamaan atau bertembung dalam majlis tersebut dengan tetamu yang bukan Islam.

vi) Peralatan makan dan minum tidak daripada barang yang diharamkan seperti emas, perak dan sutera.

vii) Tidak diketahui akan wang perbelanjaan itu dari yang haram.

viii) Jika dijemput datang pada majlis walimah tersebut selama 2 hari berturut-turut, maka hanya wajib datang 1 hari sahaja.

ix) Yang menjemput itu dan yang dijemput itu adalah beragama Islam.


To summarize the text above, when you plan your wedding. Do plan it wisely. Meaning to say, there's alot of things we need to consider for our wedding religiously, economically, families and even our own self-righteous. Here's another Fatwa by our Mufti regarding weddings, of which I referred to last time. Click HERE.

N/B : I've been missing quite a few posts since I last promised to keep up with putting Hadiths at the very end of every entry. Apologies for that.. Guess, I better start it back. Yes? :) Insya-Allah~

Until next time,
Bride

'The Good comes from Allah, the bad may have come from myself'

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Rasulullah SAW dalam hadisnya bermaksud, "Bila isteri itu mengerjakan sembahyang lima waktu, berpuasa bulan Ramadan, memelihara kemaluannya dan mematuhi suruhan dan larangan suaminya, maka akan dimasukkan dia ke dalam syurga." (riwayat Abu Hurairah)

Saturday, 8 May 2010

Memilih Bakal Pasangan

Salam everyone... a little something to share. As usual, I like to post up some bits and pieces I've found over the Net or newspaper clippings and I hope this articles helps. Insya-Allah...~

Masalah memilih bakal pasangan hidup, perlu diberi perhatian diawal perkenalan dengan pasangan masing-masing. Islam sangat bersifat selektif. Sebab itu disyarakkan diadakan fitrah pertunangan supaya terdapat jangka masa yang cukup untuk mengenali pasangan.

Mengenali pasangan bukanlah pada dasarnya berjalan-jalan dating dan berborak tanpa batasan. Konsep lima 'K' diperkenalkan oleh Rasulullah s.a.w. iaitu "Kenal", "Kelas", "Kufu", "Kasih" dan akhir sekali "Kahwin".

KENAL

Kita disuruh kenal/ta'ruf pasangan terlebih dahulu bukanlah dalam istilah luaran @ fizikal semata-mata. Erti kenal termasuk hati budi dan pegangan hidupnya. Untuk kenal orangnya, hati budinya, pergilah disuruh dan dicari orang yang boleh dipercayai agamanya merisik corak hidupnya dan perangainya. Terdapat kisah seorang sahabat Nabi, Omar r.a. di mana beliau bertanya kepada seorang lelaki apabila melantik seorang saksi.

"Apakah kamu kenal lelaki ini?" tanya Omar
"Ya, saya kenal," jawab lelaki tersebut. Omar bertanya lagi...
"Pernahkah kamu berjalan dengan saksi ini dalam musafir?"

Lelaki itu menjawab tidak pernah, Omar bertanya lagi "Pernahkah kamu bermu'amalah supaya kamu tahu setakat mana waraknya dia? Pernahkah kamu menjadi jirannya supaya kamu tahu kemana perginya dan setakat mana pergaulan, siapa keluarga dan kawan-kawannya"
Itulah yang di namakan takruf sebenarnya dalam Islam supaya kita dapat tahu apakah pasangan itu sesuai dengan kita atau sebaliknya.

Risik merisik latarbelakang pasangan perlu dibuat untuk mengetahui sejauh manakah pergaulan dan kewarakannya.. Pada dasarnya, kita boleh kenal melalui dari corak kelakuan sahabat-sahabat yang akrab dengannya....Adalah berdosa besar jika antara kedua-dua belah pihak BERBOHONG. Apabila sudah saling mengenali, TOLAK-ANSUR dapat dibuat dalam apa juga perkara.

KELAS

Kita kenal tetapi kita kena bersifat pemilih supaya terjamin akhlak dan agamanya. Kelas yang dimaksudkan bukan hanya merujuk kepada golongan yang berkelulusan agama, berjanggut dan berserban sahaja. Kelas yang baik adalah golongan yang mengamalkan ajaran agama kerana golongan ini akan menghormati pertalian perkahwinan. Mereka yang ada kefahaman dan penghayatan Islam akan memegang perkara asas dalam Islam, sentiasa 'alert', sanggup MENERIMA TEGURAN dan MEMBERI TEGURAN dan saling bersifat 'MEMBINA' untuk menjaga akhlak dalam Islam.

KUFU

Kufu amat diberatkan, dari segi pendirian, pemahaman agama dan keturunan juga perlu di seimbang. Jika terdapat keturunan golongan atasan, wajar dia mencari keturunan yang sama supaya tidak wujud jurang yang dalam. Begitu juga daripada segi harta , ulama yang bernama Mawardi menjelaskan ia perlu di titikberatkan kerana seseorang yang datang dari keluarga miskin, susah untuk seiring dengan keturunan kaya. Bahkan ulama yang ke belakang ini juga mementingkan tahap umur. Memang betul, soal jarak umur diantara Rasulullah 25 dan Siti Khadijah 40 tidak wujud kerana Rasulullah , Siti Khadijah dan Aisyah mempunyai akhlak
yang sempurna. Dan tidak seperti kita yang serba cetek. Malah rupa dan fizikal wanita yang cepat rosak boleh diselaraskan kesesuaian dengan suaminya bila sudah lama berumahtangga.

KASIH

Kasih bukan bermakna berkasih atau bercinta tetapi yang sebenarnya yang ditekankan ialah di antara kedua-dua belah pihak lelaki dan wanita itu perlu wujud unsur-unsur kasih sebelum berkahwin. Merujuk kepada sebuah hadis:-

"Tidak ada yang lebih baik bagi kedua pasangan yang berkasih ini melainkan mengakhirinya dengan perkahwinan"

Andaikata lelaki itu berkenan kepada seorang wanita, perlulah lihat wanita itu tersebut tetapi mengikut syariat Islam.

Rasulullah memberitahu:-

"Pergi lihat dahulu wanita itu, kalau kalau dengan melihat itu boleh menjamin kasih sayang di antara kamu"

Kalau kawan tolong canang kata begitu dan begini amat susah juga..

Sememangnya terdapat " Orang orang yang benar-benar redha dengan pasangan yang di tentukan oleh Allah tetapi pokok pangkal banyak terletak pada HATI kaum lelaki" Kalau tak berkenan, jangan di paksa paksa hati sebab ia bukan satu permainan pondok pondok. Kasih yang
dipupuk biarlah kerana Allah kerana ia menjamin kebahagian rumahtangga.

Hadis Nabi ada menyatakan:-

"Barangsiapa yang berkawin dengan wanita kerana KEDUDUKAN ia hanya mendapat kehancuran sebagai balasan, Barangsiapa yang berkawin dengan wanita kerana KEKAYAAN, Allah menjanjikan kemiskinan. Barangsiapa yang menikahi kerana KETURUNAN, Allah akan menghina keturunannya dan Barang siapa yang berkawin dengan NIAT BAIK dan kerana ALLAH demi menutup pandangan dan kemaluannya atau menyambung silahturrahim, Allah akan memberkati kedua duanya."

Keberkatan memang dititik beratkan. Apabila nawaitu/niat kita dipasakkan dengan betul. InsyaAllah perkahwinan akan diberkati dan dilindungi. Setiap gerak geri dan tindak tanduk mendapat pengawasan dan hidayah daripada Allah dan tidak timbul perselisihan faham.

REDHA

Redha terhadap pasangan masing masing adalah penting. Rasulullah sering bertanya,

"Apakah kamu redha dengan pasangan ini? Kita berkahwin dengan manusia yang mempunyai unsur unsur kebaikan dan keburukan. Tidak ada manusia yang sempurna dan apabila kita REDHA dengan pasangan bermakna kita redha dengan KEKURANGAN mereka."

Apa yang dikatakan baik bukan sekadar mengikut telunjuk isteri @ suami. Baik yang di maksudkan sanggup mengaku kekurangan diri dan mencari jalan mengatasinya"

Istilah kufu banyak di tekankan dalam Surah AnNur :ayat 26:-

"Seorang lelaki yang tidak baik itu sesuai dengan wanita yang tidak baik dan seorang lelaki yang baik itu adalah untuk wanita yang baik"


Istilah kufu sangat di tekankan kerana jika isteri dianggap kelas kedua, segala teguran daripada pasangan tidak boleh diterima. Jika isteri mempunyai jawatan dan pangkat besar serta tidak ada kufu, dia tidak dapat menerima kepimpinan daripada suami.

Tetapi, kalau ada persamaan pendirian, sikap tolak ansur dapat diwujudkan. Sebaliknya perbezaan pendapat boleh menyebabkan hubungan semakin renggang. Misalnya seorang suami yang rapuh pegangan agama tidak mahu memantapkannya selepas berkahwin, Sikap
kurang mahu ini akan menjadi tolak bengit sekiranya pula si isteri sememangnya seorang yang suka menghayati Islam dan cuba memantapkannya dari masa ke semasa ....Begitu juga sebaliknya masalah berlaku.

Kata sebahagian lelaki, dah dapat perempuan yang berkenan di hati nanti "AKU UBAHLAH PERANGAINYA". Tetapi anda perlu ingat, bukan semua perempuan mempunyai hati yang lembut dan mudah di bentuk. Keimanan dan kekuatan sikap merealisasikan Islam perlu ada pada lelaki.

Perempuan yang beriman mesti mencari lelaki yang lebih kuat imannya daripadanya kerana lelakilah yang menjadi ketua keluarga....

Tuesday, 4 May 2010

a little update.. :)

Salam everyone,

I don't know whether I have or have not put up the picture above as my entry display but simply said, I love the shot!! Mysterious but somewhat meaningful in its own ways. Hhehehe is it not? I was thinking of posting another reader's story some time this week and today's entry is merely answering the chatbox..

yohjah : w'salam... inda lagi lama? no invites for me? hehehe nadabah... I hope all your preps are doing well yeah? remember what I've typed in before.. all the anxiety atu NORMAL and kabak2 atu bawa byk2 baca2 k? Insya-allah everything will go on smoothly.. :)

Guest : good decision and pasal M.U.A shidah.. I don't know her and alum pernah dangar jua.. sorry~

roza : dearies, to save your budget I would say, go ahead with your plan tpi discuss with the parents lah. Inda pun, explain to them openly that you just want the event to take place in 1 day.. lgipun kan, lapas nikah memang cnfirm jua kna suruh Sanding tu, nda ja?

aesha : depending on urself..if u want to bagi or inda. But bare in mind, jangan gold or white gold k? silver / platinum is ok. Jarang plg ladies kan mbagi to men sal yg meminang lelaki kan?

Note for all, the ring normally symbolizes that tani (perempuan) tunangan orang ... and haram utk lelaki lain meminang tani.

I will post up a new entry some time soon... just watch this space! :)

Friday, 16 April 2010

Minis

Salam Jumaat to everyone..

Today will be the day most couples decide to have their Nikah. Be it at the mosque or at home, us brides always want to make the most of it. I once had a plan to have a mini pelamin for this special event but due to seating location, I can't implement it. Was thinking to have something decorated like everything below ani......

With extra flowers, pillows, rose petals and NO butterflies
(no offence to those yg suka butterflies hehehe)

but sadly, arh my place the big window is facing the Qiblat hence, if me simpan my seat there.. I'll be sitting behind the Imam and face to face with the hubby and that's totally wrong!

I once asked my Dad, why this is so? He said,
sama mcm orang lakibini sembahyang berjemaah, isteri dibelakang kan? Inda jua kamu kan face to face each other... ? A simple answer indeed. *toink*

Another model I had in mind... PINK and white... simple but have to sewa the frame lgi. Yg awal2 td atu bleh buat sendiri ;) so take ur pick!
A creation of your own. A white lining chiffon is available at any textile shops, the leaves say.. arh Kedai $1.80. Flowers, can either be bought or rent at any flower / wedding boutiques and instead of spotlights, u may opt for floating candles .. voila!



another DIY set..using dividers and flowers with fur-ish carpets
I loooooovvee love love love loooove this one!
with red carpet on this one.. ;) ;) a simple deco for your engagement.
Sapa2 yg kan betunang atu.. *ahem2*

Last but not the least...this one is to die for!
Suits for Nikah, Berbadak Mandi.. or for Mandi Belawat (40 hari bersalin)..
cute kan? Chic and modern indeed! Buleh utk deco tempat 'Adat Basuh kaki' arh front porch ni.. :D :D Cool I say~


So yeah.. they are lots and lots of creative ideas we can come up with for our "MINI" Pelamin. Some even just go for drapes hanging here and there 'ala2 A Thousand and one Night' theme... *sigh* I guess, the next person in line (in the family) to get married will be really lucky to have me around hehehe .. paning kepala my Aunty kli? No? *lol*



Until next time.. Insya-Allah~
Have a good Friday!!

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